Gentle on My Mind
I know I don't fit into the formulas. I just don't. (And she's not suggesting formulas are the answer.)
Yet there are things I do. Directions that capture my attention.
Today, for instance, I am thinking about gentility. It is fascinating to me that some people experience me as gentle and others don't. (I've had comments made in both directions.)
I can't say I understand this very well. I can say it has me curious enough to do some focused musing on the topic of gentility.
My first discovery at dictionary.com makes me laugh. This is not really the gentility I'm seeking...
1. good breeding or refinement
2. affected or pretentious politeness or elegance
3. the status of belonging to polite society
4. members of polite society collectively
My second discovery also makes me laugh. I look up the word gentle and find it can mean quiet. Quiet I am not! :)
Gentle has its down sides: unduly submissive, weak, servile, docile, tame.
And its up sides: peaceful, soothing, tender, humane, merciful, kind, courteous, noble.
One of its antonym sets is: violent, sudden.
Where to begin in pursuit of gentility? I think it doesn't hurt that I'm taking ballet. It trains thoughtfulness, deliberateness into the body. Suddenness is out. It can hurt the muscles and the visual effect. Verbally, I think I tend to be the sudden type. I come from a family that loves to answer quickly. Nothing wrong with that in certain contexts.
But perhaps this is where I'll begin. The issue of suddenness. Maybe tomorrow I'll look into the book of Proverbs and see what I can find. To gently instruct both body and mind.